What is This Thing Called Love?
9780373892778Chiara AtikModern Dating: A Field Guide From the creators of the popular online dating site howaboutwe.com comes the definitive guide for navigating the modern dating world. The single woman is having a moment. In the worlds of work, personal finances, and education, women are more successful than ever before. When it comes to dating, they're happy to take their time exploring lots of different relationships before deciding if they want to settle down. Women today, like the generations of women before them, want to fall in love. But they want it to happen organically, at its own pace, and with the right person. Rather than listing a set of "rules," Modern Dating offers advice on modern challenges, like how to send a relatively unembarrassing sext, how to create a failproof first date idea, and how to make sure you're getting into a relationship for the right reasons. Instead of telling you How to Win a Husband in Just 3 Easy Steps!, it will gently guide you through all the triumphs and pitfalls of what dating is actually like, from one-night stands, to confusing texts and emails, to your first online date. Frank, funny, and totally relatable, this is a book that really gets at how women are dating today--the ideal travel companion for your dating life. The only rule is that there are no rules, but this book will be there for guidance, or just for laughs, every step of the way. - Description from Syndetics
9780374533571Matthew QuickThe Silver Linings Playbook A heartwarming New York Times bestselling novel, now a major movie by David O. Russell--nominated for eight Academy Awards (including Best Picture), four Golden Globes, and four Screen Actors Guild Awards! "Aawww shucks!" NPR's Nancy Pearl said. "I know that's hardly a usual way to begin a book review, but it was my immediate response to finishing Matthew Quick's heartwarming, humorous and soul-satisfying first novel . . . This book makes me smile." Meet Pat Peoples. Pat has a theory: his life is a movie produced by God. And his God-given mission is to become physically fit and emotionally literate, whereupon God will ensure him a happy ending--the return of his estranged wife, Nikki. (It might not come as a surprise to learn that Pat has spent several years in a mental health facility.) The problem is, Pat's now home, and everything feels off. No one will talk to him about Nikki; his beloved Philadelphia Eagles keep losing; he's beingpursued by the deeply odd Tiffany; his new therapist seems to recommend adultery as a form of therapy. Plus, he's being haunted by Kenny G! David O. Russell's adaptation of The Silver Linings Playbook features Bradley Cooper ( People magazine's Sexiest Man Alive) in the role of Pat, alongside Jennifer Lawrence, Robert De Niro, Julia Stiles, Chris Tucker, and Jacki Weaver. As the award-winning novelist Justin Cronin put it: "Tender, soulful, hilarious, and true, The Silver Linings Playbook is a wonderful debut." - Description from Syndetics
9780231134378William R. Jankowiak (Editor)Intimacies: Love and Sex Across CulturesNo culture is ever completely successful or satisfied with its synthesis of romantic love, companionship, and sexual desire. Whether the setting is a busy metropolis or a quiet farming village, a tension always exists between a community's sexual habits and customs and what it believes to be the proper context for love. Even in Western societies, we prefer sexual passion to romance and companionship, and no study of any culture has shown that individuals regard passion and affection equally. The pursuit of love and sex has generated an infinite number of ambiguities and contradictions, yet every community hopes to find a resolution to this conflict either by joining, dividing, or stressing one act over the other. In this follow-up to Romantic Passion: A Universal Experience? , William R. Jankowiak examines how different cultures rationalize the expression of passionate and comfort love and physical sex. He begins by mapping out the intricacies of the love/sex conundrum and the psychological dilemma of reconciling these competing forces. He then follows with essays on sex, love, and intimacy among Central African foragers and farmers; the love dyad in Lithuania; intimacy among the Lahu of Southwestern China; the interplay of love, sex, and marriage in the High Himalayas; verbalized experiences of love and sexuality in Indonesia; love work as it relates to sex work among prostitutes; intimacies and estrangements in the marital and extramarital relationships of Huli men; infidelity and masculinity in Southwestern Nigeria; and the ritual of sex and the rejuvenation of the love bond among married couples in the United States. - Description from Syndetics
9780375709227Thomas Lewis; Fari Amini; Richard LannonA General Theory of LoveThis original and lucid account of the complexities of love and its essential role in human well-being draws on the latest scientific research. Three eminent psychiatrists tackle the difficult task of reconciling what artists and thinkers have known for thousands of years about the human heart with what has only recently been learned about the primitive functions of the human brain. A General Theory of Love demonstrates that our nervous systems are not self-contained: from earliest childhood, our brains actually link with those of the people close to us, in a silent rhythm that alters the very structure of our brains, establishes life-long emotional patterns, and makes us, in large part, who we are. Explaining how relationships function, how parents shape their child's developing self, how psychotherapy really works, and how our society dangerously flouts essential emotional laws, this is a work of rare passion and eloquence that will forever change the way you think about human intimacy. - Description from Syndetics
9780195093612Lucy Rosenthal (Selected by); Clifton Fadiman (Foreword by)The World Treasury of Love StoriesExhilarating, poignant, passionate, lyrical, amusing or inspiring, the selections in The World Treasury of Love Stories are as rich and varied as love itself. While the lion's share of the stories explore romantic love and its many stages and masks, this remarkable anthology is neitherconventional nor predictable. Rather than trying to represent the entire tradition of the love story, editor Lucy Rosenthal has searched the world's literature to select thirty-eight stunningly beautiful and wholly original entries, choosing only those that speak most memorably, and most directly,to our own time. While each story stands on its own, together this finely crafted collection is a looking glass into the many moods of love, from the sweep and ferocity of Verga's The Wolf; to the lyric realism of Chekhov's Lady with the Pet Dog; to the disillusioned ache and unexpected tenderness of RaymondCarver's Fever. From James Joyce's Ulysses, here are Molly Bloom's life-affirming, stream-of-consciousness recollections of key erotic episodes; at the other end of the spectrum is John Updike's "Separating," a devastatingly precise portrait of the dismantling of a marriage. Though both storiesgrapple with the theme of lost or unattainable love, Yasunari Kawabata's delicately traced Moon on the Water could not be further removed from Gail Godwin's earthy and ironic "My Lover, His Summer Vaction." Within this rich diversity, however, strong parallels emerge. Yukio Mishima's "Patriotism,"for example, is set in the imperial Japan of 1936, and steeped in the elite traditions of the samurai, while Isaac Bashevis Singer's "Short Friday" depicts a poor Eastern European tailor and his wife as they go about their ritual preparations for the Sabbath; both stories offer powerful andunforgettable treatments of marital fidelity. Stories by Colette, Italo Calvino, Gustave Flaubert, Nadine Gordimer, Henry James, D. H. Lawrence, Alice Walker, Edith Wharton, and many others complement and echo each other's themes as they explore the nuances of love and loss, betrayal and devotion,as if the love stories themselves were love letters, forging links among writers across separate worlds and centuries. Ranging from The Book of Ruth to the contemporary observations of today's finest fiction writers, The World Treasury of Love Stories is destined to become a classic. Enhanced with a thoughtful introduction by Lucy Rosenthal, with illuminating notes on the life and work of each contributor, it willcaptivate anyone who has every wondered, "What is this thing called love?" - Description from Syndetics
9781557788757Alan SoblePhilosophy of Sex and Love: An Introduction 2nd Edition, Revised and ExpandedThis is an introductory textbook in the philosophy of sex and love by one of America's best known authors on the topic. It is a critical overview of the nature, and the ethics, of sex and love. Most of the book focuses how 20th-century thinkers in various intellectual traditions have conceived of sexuality and love. Throughout, the book's approach to the philosophy of sex and love is analytic, historical, and social. Topics addressed include the nature of sexual pleasure, sexual desire, and sexual activity; the relationship between judgments about the biological, psychological, and social natures of human beings and judgments that certain sexual behaviors or desires are sexually perverted; the possibility of constructing plausible and comprehensive principles of sexual ethics; the moral and social issues of rape, pornography, prostitution, adultery, promiscuity, masturbation, abortion, and contraception; the varieties and forms of love; the connections, logical and psychological, among sexuality, love, friendship, and marriage; and how issues within the philosophy of sex and love look different once gender is taken into account. - Description from Syndetics